The Role of Trusted Adults in Helping Children Grieve
Grief can feel confusing and overwhelming for children. Having someone they trust helps them make sense of their emotions and feel supported as they navigate changes in their daily life.
Children may turn to different adults at different times. This can include parents, carers, teachers, relatives or family friends. What matters most is that the adult offers warmth, stability and space for the child to share their thoughts in their own way.
Trusted Adults Can:
Provide Clear Information
- Children cope best when explanations are simple and honest.
Offer Reassurance
- Knowing that someone is there to listen and help can reduce fear and uncertainty.
Model Healthy Coping
- Children learn from the adults around them. Seeing someone express emotions safely helps them understand their own.
Create Routine
- Familiar structure helps children feel secure when everything else feels unsettled.
Notice Changes
- Trusted adults are often the first to spot shifts in behaviour, mood or sleep that may signal a child needs extra support.
Supporting a Child as a Trusted Adult
Be Present
- Sometimes children simply need someone nearby, even if they don’t want to talk.
Listen without judgement
- Let them share feelings or questions at their own pace.
Use Clear Language
- Avoid phrases that might confuse or worry them.
Acknowledge Emotions
- Let them know it’s okay to feel sad, angry, confused or even relieved.
Keep Communication Open
- Children may return to the same questions as they try to understand what has happened.
Work Together With Other Adults
- Sharing information helps ensure the child receives consistent support at home, school and in their wider community.
For support, contact The Children’s Grief Charity on 0808 802 0111 Monday – Friday, 9am–5pm or email us.